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Resourch tools are available for conflict resolution
by Holly Smith
When emotions run high, it can be difficult to think rationally. That is why it is important to
have tools on hand to help deal with anger when it arises. There are many resources nationally and
locally where people can get help with, or information about anger management issues.
"When anger gets to the point of abuse, the aggressor clearly is beyond the point of being able to
work through the anger or control it on their own," said Dr. Cynthia Cook, assistant director for
counseling with Career and Counsel-ing Services.
"Therefore, the issues underlying the anger need to be addressed, as well as some behavioral
changes, and the way one thinks about and interprets interpersonal interactions.
There are also comprehensive programs in the community, like PIVOT, that treat the abuser in both
an individual and group therapy setting."
Resources, such as Career and Counseling Services here at UH-Clear Lake, help people sort out anger
issues by teaching people how to manage anger and communicate effectively.
"Depending on the student's needs we also offer group counseling for various issues. We will do
seminars or programs on anger management, abusive relationships, or relationship issues in general
for various student groups, organizations, or classes as requested," Cook said.
Abusers and victims alike have other avenues of help. They could contact the police, a crisis line,
or a minister. One of the most powerful tools for dealing with an anger problem is to gain
information about your situation, and learn what makes a situation turn bad.
Not managing anger could lead to domestic abuse, which affects nearly one-third of American women.
"A common misconception of domestic violence is that it only affects certain socio-economic
conditions," said Dr. Ray Pledger, director of the clinical psychological graduate program and
psychological services training clinic. "Domestic violence is not just in the lower classes." The
tragedies of Phil Hartman and Nicole Brown Simpson show us an example of domestic violence being
blind to economic conditions.
There are many ways to deal with anger. One tip many professionals give their patients to deal
with anger is relaxation techniques.
This can be as simple as breathing deeply and thinking of calming images or places. Some counselors
suggest that if the anger is beyond restraining, to leave the situation temporarily until a rational
conversation can be had. Other professionals emphasize the importance of humor, communication and
problem-solving skills.
However, if anger is getting out of control, experts say, counseling is probably the best option.
UH-Clear Lake will host a Mediation for Family Disputes seminar from 8:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m., Nov.
9 through Nov. 11 in the Bayou Building.
The seminar will guide family members through a step-by-step process of role-playing, experimental
exercises, mock court settlements and other activities.
At $435, the fee for the seminar is expensive, but will hopefully prove to be helpful to families
by providing guidance from professional mediators.
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