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Relationship problems? Roommate problems? Stressed and need someone to talk to? Send questions and you will receive answers. E-mail Gabby at: deargabby03@yahoo.com. All identities are strictly confidential. E-mail me today!!

Dear Gabby: My roommate is such a slob! She leaves her dirty dishes in the sink and and junk all over the floor when she comes in the door. When you walk in, you see her bookbags, shoes and other stuff all over the floor. We share a bathroom and she leaves her clothes all over the floor. I'm not a neat freak, but I'm not that messy! Help! What can I do to get her to change her messy ways? Fed up roomie

Dear Roomie: This is one of the most frequent complaints about roommates. No one likes living with a slob, so here are some suggestions. Politely tell her that her slobby ways cannot continue. Have days where you alternate chores around the house. That way, she knows she has cleaning responsibilities on certain days and she can't put them off. Encourage her instead of just griping at her. Plus, if she sees you cleaning, it might set an example. If her parents come over, have them encourage her. Her mother probably doesn't want to see that she lives in a messy home. But if after a while she refuses to change her messy ways, you might want to consider getting another roommate. No one should have to live with someone they can't stand.





Dear Gabby: I think my girlfriend is cheating? Any way to tell? Loving Boyfriend

Dear Boyfriend: These are the questions I hate the most. No one wants to believe their mate is cheating. Is her romantic interest in you increasing or declining? Increased or decreased attention is a way to tell. Does she hide her cell phone from you? Is she secretive about where she goes? Does she suddenly have a lot of new friends? If the answer to these questions is yes, then something may be wrong with the relationship. If she's not cheating, she may feel smothered or have some other issue. Talking to her is the only way to find out.





Dear Gabby: I am graduating in May and I am terrified. I have been a communication major here at UHCL for the last two years, and I still don't know what I want to do for a career. Several areas of the field interest me, but where do I start? I don't want to end up with a job that I won't enjoy. Please help me. Scared

Dear Scared: Trust me when I say that you are not alone in the way you feel. Lots of students feel the same way. Don't get discouraged. Think about how many times most students change majors before they graduate. As a communication major, you know what fields you like; now you just need to narrow it down. Try talking to an adviser about possible job options or taking a test that recommends jobs based on your strengths and interests. Don't be scared to get your feet wet in a career. You can always change jobs later after you've gained some experience. Use the next few months to set up an internship before you graduate. Good Luck.

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